Helping Kids Heal- Hugs If your children struggle with anxiety and worry it can truly be tough to manage. Especially in this day and age with so much going on in and around our homes. They are being bombarded with scary things every day ranging from tiny to ginormous. I recently shared a technique that […]
The Positive Parenting Series
In college I studied psychology in particular psychological development. Through my studies I learned the most beneficial way to raise children. Then I had them, and lost my damn mind!
As a recovering "yeller", and frustration monster I have been trying to utilize everything I have learned to become a fully positive parent.
What is positive parenting?
A parent who commits to regulating their own emotions, instead of taking them out on their child and uses connection and coaching to motivate them to regulate their own emotions and actions.
Um. Yeah, its a work in process.
What are the benefits?
I can already hear some people freaking out over positive parenting. Honestly it works better than strict parenting raises children harboring resentment and anger. Permissive parenting raises unhappy children who test their parents. In both cases, the child resists the parent's guidance and doesn't internalize self discipline.
- Positive parenting raises children who want to behave.
- It works for toddlers to teens.
- healthy relationship
Positive parenting is based on love and growing that love into a deep connection with your children to keep them on the right path. Research shows that children are more open to our guidance when we empathize, and resist any temptation to be punitive. That's what helps kids learn consideration and responsibility, and makes for happier kids and parents.
Children learn by example, so much of this is self work to be able to regulate your own temper and behavior.
Helping Kids Heal I recently posted a simple technique that can help empower your child, and help them change their memories and emotions around something painful. If you are interested in checking out that post you can read more about changing the story here. Today, I want to share another technique you can try to […]
Healing Kids Heal: Changing the Story Does your child have a lot of emotions? Do they carry around the anxiety of the world? Maybe they are just natural born worriers. I know my oldest is definitely one of those. She carries around all the stressors of the world on top of her very tiny shoulders. […]
5 Things to do to Help You Celebrate Your Child’s First Holy Communion Isabella recently celebrated her First Holy Communion, if you are Christian or Catholic then you understand the importance of this celebration. Honestly though, as a parent you can go pretty crazy with the whole planning and preparing for this major event. It […]
Our loss You may be wondering why last year we were a little bit inconsistent with posts, why series such as our annual 13 Days of Halloween Crafts, 12 or 25 Days of Christmas Crafts, and what have you, just stopped. While we have had technical difficulties and were working on upgrades, we also had […]
Positive Parenting: What You Say Matters Choosing your words wisely and giving positive feedback reaffirms and reinforces good actions. So when you catch your child is doing something good you tell them “I really like how you did that.” “It makes me happy to see you and your brother/sister play together like that.” “You are […]
If you are following our parenting journey you know that this post isn’t just about parenting. You know it is about a specific issue in my household that I am sharing with you. You can find the details of what is going on and what we are trying out in my previous two entries linked […]