Okay! So the first real post about my parenting journey with behavior in particular is finally here. My goal is to write bi weekly. We were having a bit of a week last week so it was rough, but now we have discussed things, and actually got a plan for our first steps. Our first […]
The Positive Parenting Series
In college I studied psychology in particular psychological development. Through my studies I learned the most beneficial way to raise children. Then I had them, and lost my damn mind!
As a recovering "yeller", and frustration monster I have been trying to utilize everything I have learned to become a fully positive parent.
What is positive parenting?
A parent who commits to regulating their own emotions, instead of taking them out on their child and uses connection and coaching to motivate them to regulate their own emotions and actions.
Um. Yeah, its a work in process.
What are the benefits?
I can already hear some people freaking out over positive parenting. Honestly it works better than strict parenting raises children harboring resentment and anger. Permissive parenting raises unhappy children who test their parents. In both cases, the child resists the parent's guidance and doesn't internalize self discipline.
- Positive parenting raises children who want to behave.
- It works for toddlers to teens.
- healthy relationship
Positive parenting is based on love and growing that love into a deep connection with your children to keep them on the right path. Research shows that children are more open to our guidance when we empathize, and resist any temptation to be punitive. That's what helps kids learn consideration and responsibility, and makes for happier kids and parents.
Children learn by example, so much of this is self work to be able to regulate your own temper and behavior.
Parenting does NOT come with instructions, even though there are a cornucopia of books and guides to help you along the way there is no fail proof way to raise your child. No matter how many books you read, videos you watch, and/ or audio tracks you listen to, it does not always work out […]
The Power of Positivity Have you ever heard of Masaru Emoto? He works with water, frozen water actually, he began this idea to freeze water and observe it with a microscope in 1994 and he observed this frozen water under different conditions. He noticed that beautiful crystals appeared after giving good words, playing good music, […]
Sometimes I think I should have Potty trained my daughter earlier because well before she was two years old even before she was one year (at about 11 months) she would tell me when she was making. The reasons I decided to wait and continue to let her go in a diaper is that she […]