In college, I studied psychology in particular psychological development. Through my studies, I learned the most beneficial way to raise children. Then I had them, and lost my damn mind!
As a recovering "yeller," and frustration monster, I have been trying to utilize everything I have learned to become an entirely positive parent.
What is positive parenting?
Positive parenting is when a parent who commits to regulating their own emotions, instead of taking them out on their child(ren) and uses connection and coaching to motivate them to control their own feelings and actions.
Um. Yeah, its a work in process.
What are the benefits?
I can already hear some people freaking out over positive parenting. Honestly, it works better than strict parenting raises children harboring resentment and anger. Permissive parenting raises unhappy children who test their parents. In both cases, the child resists the parent's guidance and doesn't internalize self-discipline.
- Positive parenting raises children who want to behave.
- It works for toddlers to teens.
- healthy relationship
Positive parenting is based on love and growing that love into a deep connection with your children to keep them on the right path. Research shows that children are more open to our guidance when we empathize and resist any temptation to be punitive. That's what helps kids learn consideration and responsibility, and makes for happier kids and parents.
Children learn by example, so much of this is self-work to be able to regulate your temper and behavior.